Re-live some sweet memories: My favourite childhood game.

I grew up in that city that’s in the South west of Zimbabwe, should I also give you its gradients 😊? I know I have lost you right, was trying to show off phela I passed geography. So I was saying, I grew up in the city of Kings and Queens, kwantuthu ziyathunqa, the second largest city in Zimbabwe. I hope you sense the pride😉. Like all children, we played games mostly after school.

Me at the time of this memory, I hope you notice the dust road behind me there, that’s the one.


Who played and where: All children from around the block would gather at the dust road and figure out what game to play.


Games played: We would play nhodo, stop, amadlwane, whishu, tsoro, pada, but the game I loved the most was matshayana,  I wish I could translate the name of the game for you but you will be flabbergasted at how nonsensical the translation will sound. But if I’m to try, then I will tell you it loosely translates to hitting one another.


Game of choice: Matshayana is a game that involves two people on opposite sides, standing on drawn lines a number of feet apart and with one person in the middle. The two people on the line, throw the ball from one to another and try to hit the one at the centre in the process. The one at the centre makes sure to dodge the ball, they could be having a stick to count with at the centre of the ground as they dodge the ball, or they could be having stones to pile one after the other, if all stones are pilled they get points or if they count to an agreed number they get points. The person at the centre might need to also catch the ball and throw it as far as they can so that they buy themselves time to count or pile stones.

Found this on FB and thought, Yeap, this captured the whole matshayana vibe


The state of the ball used: If you were thinking we used a good conditioned store bought ball then you got it wrong. We preferred our own custom made, hand crafted balls which we made from lots of plastic bags, mainly empty salt, or sugar or rice plastic bags; we were sharp minds, we had already mastered the art of recycling at that age. (did that sound fancy at all? Because that was the intention😂).


Why this game? I went into depth to describe this particular game because it was my favourite (obviously you already know that). And also because I played it so well, I see your doubtful faces but I’m being truthful. I had this skill of circling like a tornado from left to right and vice versa when dodging the ball. They should have nicknamed me tornado but no, this is Zimbabwe, they called me Chiwuya (please read that in Shona, thank you and it loosely translates to you can now come or please come now). Yes we were in Matabeleland but we all watched Zbc tv at that time and there was this song sung by people from the apostolic sect and it’s lyrics went like “Chiwuya, chiwuyayi, pazambara Baba, pazambara chiwuyayi” (come father, come to this gathering) and they did the tornado move from side to side with their big garments being swayed from side to side. That is how I got that nickname.


The friends: I usually played this game with my friends, age mates and neighbours namely, Fortunate, Unesisa, Unothando and Comfort: that’s as far as my memory goes as far as names are concerned but it was a whole squad, just can’t get myself to remember everyone else.

Results: Every time I went to play, being an only child at that time, I enjoyed myself. It felt good to play with other kids and I always had the time of my life. The only problem is God never stopped time for us, he let it run like every other day and girl, I always lost track of time and that always resulted in a beating. Mother never liked a girl child getting into her home after 6pm, it was an offense punishable by being beaten or being banned from going out to play. The punishments never stopped a girl from losing track of time, she lost track of time all the times. Maybe it was because mom’s beatings weren’t that bad, I remember jumping on her bed, hiding behind pillows during a beating by her, it was kind of hilarious.

Well, it seems like yesterday when we played, when we were children and carefree or should I say careless. Those were some precious days, good memories  were made and I’m happy I managed to relive those days by narrating this piece specifically on this day when I am opening the 28th chapter of my life and I am just a minute to 30. Because of a childhood memory, today, I afforded a genuine smile.

Which was your favourite childhood game, let’s hear about it in the comments section.

I heard them say

Keila: Have you seen Abel ‘son? He is charcoal black like his father. To think Abel’s wife is light skinned, yet she failed to give little colour to the kid. I met her yesterday, she was carrying the baby, it was real funny, it was as if she was carrying a kango pot covered in soot.

Nicole, Tambudzai and Thandi all laugh hysterically at the descriptions being given by Keila.

Thandi: Yooh cousin, you remind me of Thoko’s daughter. The girl is a replica of her father, she is definitely my niece but the girl is ugly. She looks like a man, hayi, it’s a total disaster.

The girls laugh harder, Nicole’s eyes have even begun tearing.

Tambudzai: I just think that whole theory of an ugly man having to marry a beautiful wife so that they can make a beautiful baby does not work. Some people have stronger genes, you will be amazed giving birth to a Gonzalo. Imagine having a misfitting baby.

Nicole: You have a point, one can actually be mismatched with your baby, that’s a fact. You should see my sister and her babies, a total misfit. The babies are all light skinned and she is chocolate colored. You can never imagine how many times people mistake her for the kids’ nanny.

Keila: We should stay away from uglies. Imagine not being able to slay with your baby or even go for a photoshoot because you have an ugly baby.

Tambudzai: You will go everywhere with that baby wrapped in blankets, unable to show her to the world.

Then I wondered, if that’s actually a thing? If that’s actually an intellectual conversation? If that’s a reasonable concern? Or if it’s just an idle conversation by immature ladies?

What do you think of this conversation?

Societal Beauty Standards: what’s your take?

The Beauty of Light

I’m seated somewhere
In a building with an upstairs
It’s dark outside
But I see a road in the distance
The traffic lights are flashing
Making the view very beautiful
There is a tower light somewhere
Next to the building
Enabling me to see the roof tops of nearby buildings
The blue blue roof of the shed
And the weathered roof of the archaic building close by
The roof of the garage,
I see it’s made from lots of solar panels
If only I had a camera,
I would capture this view
The beauty of a little light, amidst the thick darkness of the night.

Surrounded by darkness yet enfolded in light

Despondent?

As we celebrate Women’s Day, let’s seek to influence and impart other women. Leave no women behind…

I am looking at these ones
They are outside
They look happy
They laugh a lot
Like they’re carrying no baggage
I see them from the window
I am in here, inside
The walls that were once home
Now cage me
I watch them still
I smile when they laugh
And when they do the silly hand claps
The silly shoulder bumps
The silly shoulder tapping
I bet they are gossiping
I smile still as I watch
They remind me of what I once was
What I someday will be
What I am Not.

Share love, share light, reach out to those in hopeless situations, give them reason, give them hope

Big + Unattainable Dreams =Progress and innovation

Big enormous dreams

Hey fam. I realise it’s been a moment. I hope we’re all having a promising year. Have you all managed to formulate how your year will go? I mean setting realistic and achievable goals.

Now that I have penned that line of thought down, it sounds wrong, considering the fact that some if not most of the dreams we have do not at all sound real, yet at some point we achieve them anyway. Call it destiny or whatever you want to call it but we have made small or big achievements which we never deemed possible considering our past circumstances. It all happened because the dream was way to big for us we had to move out of our comfort zones and work our way towards achieving the dream.

I am saying our deams though enormous and out of reach as it may seem, to achieve them we need to set feasible goals. These goals act as a ladder or staircase that takes us up to our dreams. One step at a time, eventually, we get there. I know you guys are intelligent and you already know and understand what I’m talking of. I just had to write it down as a way of reminding both you and me, incase we hesitate our doubt to find ourselves doubtful of our capabilities.

I cannot speak for everyone on this, but I know I have been slacking this year; did not even jot down the resolutions for the year 2024, they are still stuck somewhere in my mind- good old procrastination got me. I might need to redeem myself on that one, or maybe I Need Saving. I do hope your story is different from mine and I pray you don’t loose hope or focus somewhere along the way.

I for one have embedded this one important resolution in my mind and my heart: My assignment this year is ME. Yeap, selfish much but I need this and I think we all do at some point. I shall and I will focus on ME, grow ME, challenge ME, advance ME, deal with ME, above all, I intend to HEAL and LOVE ME. Hoping by year endi will be a better ME.

I don’t know what your resolutions are but This is Your Year (lol), I know your Pastor has been saying it every year and nothing changes. Well, I’m not saying it like your Pastor says it. All I’m saying is HOLD ON, WORK ON THOSE GOALS, GRIND HARD, DON’T GIVE UP NO MATTER WHAT, WORK ON THOSE CONNECTIONS, LETS GO HUN WE CAN DO THIS ( I know use of capital letters means someone is shouting I’m just putting across an important point, uxolo).

Till we meet again (virtually of cause). Do share your most pressing goal this year if you are comfortable sharing with that with us.

If you feel comfortable when you think of your dream then you are not dreaming big

Roses are red, love is transparent, valentine is whatever colour you think it to be…

Very Late Post:


Don’t ask why the post is late, I did want to post on valentine but I failed to due to reasons I cannot say.

So valentine, a day of appreciating our loved ones. Did you appreciate yours? Hope you did.
Usually people go around wearing red clothes on valentine, I wonder if that is what happened this valentine’s. I made sure to not go out for any reason mainly because I did not want to put on anything red. Crazy I know but for some reason my mind told me wearing a piece of red is mandatory on Vals.



I prefer purple to red, please do not judge, allow me to explain myself. Would it be so bad if couples would wear what ever colour reminds them of where their love journey began. Well, I’m just asking, I’m not even sure if that’s really a thing. Assuming the lady was wearing a black summer dress when the husband spotted her or gym clothes or anything that stuck into the spouse’s head, every time they are happy they remind you of that day and exactly what you were wearing and they say it with that mischievous smug or genuine smile. Imagine if we could ditch the red and wear the pink, the black, the khaki just to remind each other of the beginning.

Now you get why I said I prefer purple. I wasn’t wearing purple the first time we met but purple does bring a lot of funny memories, it’s safe to say it takes us to our beginning. Curious much? I know you want to hear the story, and believe me, I do want to share it but you would look at me differently if I told you, let’s save it for old age. Bottom line is purple is our love colour, what is yours?

My valentine is PURPLE 💜

Of Wrecked and the Mocking bird

Hello world. I have missed you all sooooo very much. The year is coming to an end. I wasn’t consistent but I tried, you know it. My baby is all grown up and he is now the co-owner of my phone so I can’t write to you guys. You are suggesting that I use my laptop, thanks, I can’t, I don’t own one. I know that doesn’t sound right, it’s because it’s not right. I could use a destiny helper buying me a laptop that would be awesome.

So about this year, I experienced many cracks, especially during the first half, it’s by God’s grace that I did not go mad, literary. I have since realised that I’m also not suicidal, death never crossed my mind, other things did- I will leave it at that.

Did you know the first crack is associated with coffee (totally off topic, I know. Did you experience any cracks this year? How did you deal with those?

So about the cracks- yes, they wrecked me, that’s how I came up with the title Wrecked for my short story. The story is three A5 pages short but it’s a good read and it speaks volumes. Volumes of emotional abuse and real life problems faced by an African woman.

Well, not everything in there is my story but as you read it you will feel the emotions and you will definitely feel my story lurking somewhere at the back.

Funny how writing therapy is actually a thing, I have since healed and the pain paid, I mean it pushed me to have something published this year, that means the light shimmered through those cracks in my life. I had not looked at it that way, until the guest speaker said a number of things and I was made to appreciate my story from a different angle.

When I first submitted my story, I actually thought of signing off as the silent bird the figurative meaning being I suffer in silence. Something in me changed during the editing process and I told the editor to use my real identity instead. I thought using a pseudonym would be cowardly. If I am to tell the story of an African woman I will do it with my head held high, I will do it unapologetically so I needed my name and picture associated with my words, a brave mouthpiece (lol).

The editor, I should ask to meet him or her, used my name and photograph but still signed at the end of the story. Surprisingly it’s still a bird but this one is not silent, it’s a mocking bird. Don’t frown it’s not as bird as it sounds lol. So when I saw it, I was not pissed, I did not feel like it’s an error, I did not cringe, I felt ok, it felt like it was in place, it did not seem like an error. That is what got me concerned, the editor put something there and I don’t understand it but I’m ok with it, why?

The mocking bird is known to sing almost endlessly. Hey editor, you were trying to sell me a trademark right? I’ll take it thank you.

New trademark alert…

I feel the strong need to guard my gender, I feel a strong need to speak out on their behalf. I hate physical confrontations so I will just bleed on paper almost endlessly – the Mocking bird it is.

Life is a soup

I will reheat it until it looks this delicious

Life is a soup,
Coagulated offal soup.
You cannot take it without reheating it.
How do I reheat it?
In a world without electricity. Right, Firewood you say,
There is no firewood, deforestation happened.
A candle is all I have.
Lucky me, I can reheat this offal soup.
Oh no, but the soup is in a size 30 cast iron pot.
Perhaps I will have to wait until eternity
To get this offal soup called life to atleast be warm
And maybe then, just maybe, I will be able to enjoy it.

Race…

Guest Blogger: Adriana Mugwara

What does it matter?

Dark, caramel, toffee, white;
what does it matter?
Black, brown, white
Indian, Namibian, Nepali, American
Who’s checking?
Middle class, rich, poor,
How does that define us?
Degreed, illiterate, 12th grader
Why are we all so concerned?

Why are we being indoctrinated into this division, this prejudice, this bigotry.
Why? Why have we allowed this hammerhead to dominate into our lives and leave its bane of hate to separate us?
Chauvinism drains energy, why are we wasting our energy on such, our precious time on all these things that are going to be left behind at some point in time.
Noone choses to be black or poor or white, Why are we making ourselves suffer for the things we didn’t choose to be.
We ought to do better, we are better, lets fight the system, not fight amongst ourselves. Let’s build a better place, a better future and its starts with you and I.

Borrowed time…

First and foremost condolences for the loss of our artist….

I don’t mean to judge but ladies and gentlemen the recently late artist did a funny prayer. Was it a prayer or Irish toast or a mockery show? What do you guys think of it….

The video of the toast

Hail Mary…give me five minutes in heaven before the devil knows I’m dead,” spills some alcohol as if to appease Hail Mary.

Ndadeepisa here? (Am I overthinking the whole scenario?). Oh well, I’m not saying he asked for it, death is a robber, robbing us of our loved ones who have so much talent and potential – it’s sad really. But I also reckon that we seem to overdo or oversay and overlookour actions in the name of increasing our viewership ratingsand subscribers (kufadza mafanzi). Is it worth it? Do we not lose ourselves in the process? I’m not a celebrity or social figure, I wouldn’t know, do shed some light my fellow eathmates.

On a light note, do you think maybe he did go to heaven for five minutes? Do remember 1 minute could be a thousand days to God. Isn’t we say God answers prayers? So we might just come across our favourite artist in heaven and be like:

Us: “Oh, you are here?”

Him: “Yes, I’m in remand awaiting trial.”

Oh well, it is cruelty to blame a person for their death since we do not live because of our own abilities or knowledge. It’s also not fair to blame a private ambulance for not showing up at the scene when no one had paid for its services. Imagine opening a tuck shop and having community members walk in to collect whatever they need without paying for it. Would that be a business? Obviously, no. One can never have a successful business when running it on sympathy.

I wish we would stop the habit of looking to find a scapegoat every time death strikes. I wish we would understand that it is beyond our power and there is not much we can do to escape death. When the claws of death come for you, you can die while being attended to by the most trusted and popular doctor. But then again if we accept death so easily that would mean we are not human, or would it?

Then comes our good old habit of praising and really appreciating artists only after they are gone. Lord, I’m equally guilty. I for one did not know the artist, had to Google him after hearing the news of his death. Atleast I discovered I knew only one song of his and I must say, he was good – just not my jam, but good all the same. I wrote this article in his honour (hide face). I see your judging expressions, it’s okay.

My point is, everyone talking of how good he was, posted him on WhatsApp statuses, played his songs more than we did when he was alive ( argue if you want but you know I’m right). How about posting them on our statuses when they are still alive, acknowledging them as much as we can while they can still receive our praises. Attending their shows, paying them to perform at our events. We can do better. Make tik tok videos of local music, subscribe to our local artists’ social media platforms. We are the support they need. Offer them constructive criticism and not agree and support when we clearly see they are going down the wrong road (ingori mdara makaipa). We love our local artists, they will be an inspiration to our kids and to some of us, hence let us support them the right way. #Supportinglocalartists